My Reason for Doing Perl

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Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by stiller (Friar) on May 16, 2008 at 07:40 UTC
I don't know you, and I don't know your pain, I can't say I know how you feel. I feel with you, though words fail me.	[reply]
Re^2: My Reason for Doing Perl by Khen1950fx (Canon) on May 16, 2008 at 11:08 UTC
Thank you, stiller.	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by McDarren (Abbot) on May 16, 2008 at 17:38 UTC
In some small way, I guess I can say I know how you feel. Although of course, for the people this horrible thing touches - all are affected in slightly different ways. I lost my first wife to cancer on the 26th December, 1998 - the day after christmas - after she'd struggled with it for almost 6 years. Our boys were 8 and 9 years old at the time. The year or so leading up to her passing, and the months afterwards, was and were without a doubt the most painful period of my life. To see a loved one slowly fade away over a long period, knowing all the time that nothing can be done, creates a pain - and a feeling of such utter despair and hopelessness - that simply cannot be described in words. Almost ten years have gone by. My little boys are now young men. I've re-married. Life continues. I still miss my wife, and think about her almost every day. But - and I hope that this may give you some small solace - the pain has eased, ever so slowly, and ever so gradually. And what I'm left with now are the fond memories of the 13 years we had together. And two sensational young men that I know she would be incredibly proud of. My heart goes out to you, my friend. --Darren	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by Starky (Chaplain) on May 16, 2008 at 13:22 UTC
You have my deepest condolences on your loss. It is hard for many who are not in the community to understand how the technology community can provide a solace to those who are experiencing hardship, but although I cannot begin to understand your grief, I have also found the community to be a place to find a quiet respite during turbulent times in my life and hope that it will continue to be such a place for you. My heart goes out to you, and I hope that in time, you will find peace.	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by Pancho (Pilgrim) on May 16, 2008 at 13:03 UTC
Khen1950fx, Take care in this difficult time. I'll keep you in my prayers. Pancho	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by talexb (Chancellor) on May 16, 2008 at 18:07 UTC
My condolences to you on your loss. My wife's Dad was stricken with cancer a couple of times over the last few years, and went into the hospital for the last time just over two years ago. We had been on our way to visit my parents for Mother's Day when the call came through on Annette's cell phone, and we abandoned those plans and went straight to Emerg. So my wife spent the summer, right through until September 21, driving herself and her Mother from their home in Burlington to the hospital, where they kept him company, seven days a week, until he died. I was 60 kilometers away, taking care of two teenaged step-sons. In the madness of the Internet, which is like one of those cowboy towns with false fronts out in the middle of a desert somewhere, Perlmonks is an oasis of sanity, and even courtesy. Peace on you, brother. Alex / talexb / Toronto "Groklaw is the open-source mentality applied to legal research" ~ Linus Torvalds	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by Herkum (Parson) on May 16, 2008 at 16:27 UTC
Sometimes on technical sites, it can be easy to forget that people have a life outside of what they display here. I am sorry for your loss, but I also feel honored that you would be willing to share something so personal with the rest of us. There is not much that I can offer you other than try to let the good memories of your wife carry you through the pain, and the pain shall go away, eventually...	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by why_bird (Pilgrim) on May 16, 2008 at 13:59 UTC
I'm so sorry for your great loss. I hope you continue to find friendship and support from this community, and that it helps you through the difficult times ahead. If you ever need to rant to someone outside your group of friends/family, I can't promise to be able to give any good advice, but I'm happy to listen over email or pm. Best of luck. ........ Those are my principles. If you don't like them I have others. -- Groucho Marx .......	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by planetscape (Chancellor) on May 16, 2008 at 22:25 UTC
Please accept my sincere condolences. Today is the five-month anniversary of my mother's passing, and I too struggle to find a reason to continue. I think I know what one reason is, as I try to make it my own: They would want you to. HTH, planetscape	[reply]
Re^2: My Reason for Doing Perl by HeatSeekerCannibal (Beadle) on May 17, 2008 at 00:12 UTC
Si es jade, se hace astillas. Si es oro, se destruye Si es un plumaje de quetzal, se rasga �Solo un momento en la tierra! �No para siempre aqu�! --------------------- If it is jade, its smashed to pieces. If it is gold, it is destroyed. If it is the feather of a quetzal, its torn apart. Just a moment on earth. Not forever here. --------------------- Heatseeker Cannibal	[reply]
Re^2: My Reason for Doing Perl by koolgirl (Hermit) on Aug 30, 2008 at 20:19 UTC
Hey, wow sorry to hear that, sweetie. I know this is an old post, but I just got here :). You must be very strong. I hope you're doing a bit better these days? I just was browsin' and thought it was sweet, kinda bittersweet I suppose, that two Monks experiencing some loss could give each other some support :) I hope you're well planetscape (and, Khen1950fx, I hope you're better these days as well :) Koolgirl ;)	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by Anonymous Monk on May 16, 2008 at 15:22 UTC
Very sorry to hear that news, Khen. My understanding is that grief goes in stages. Diving deep into a challenging project may help in one or more of those stages, but it may also help a great deal overall to talk to a professional (i.e. psychologist). And stick around here.	[reply]
Thank you by Khen1950fx (Canon) on May 17, 2008 at 00:10 UTC
To all that have sent me messages and made some posts, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your words have helped me. Thank you for your support.	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by massa (Hermit) on May 16, 2008 at 20:29 UTC
I am deeply sorry for your loss and hope you can feel better with time.	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by chrism01 (Friar) on May 21, 2008 at 05:19 UTC
Nobody goes until the last person who remembers them also goes. My sincere condolences Chris	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by missingthepoint (Friar) on Aug 31, 2008 at 02:59 UTC
No, thank you. For sharing with us when you're suffering such a loss... I can only imagine your pain, but you have my deepest sympathy. If you were here, I'd give you a hug. I hope you've been travelling ok since then. Best of luck - here's to your success in focusing your energy on Perl. -ben email: perl -e 'print reverse map { chr( ord($_)-1 ) } split //, "\x0bufo/hojsfufqAofc";'	[reply]
Re: My Reason for Doing Perl by sundialsvc4 (Abbot) on May 21, 2008 at 21:28 UTC
Speechless.


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