I would first like to respond to jlongino's point. I didn't make my post private, and I don't think it should have been private. It didn't really help that your response to my private feedback (which I always give) on my -- was "So what?" But the real reason why it was public, why it had to be public, is that it was mostly addressed at people who voted for your post. Being that I don't know who voted for your post, there is no way I can respond to them without making it public. Therefore my main points had to either not be made, or had to be made publically.

I guess that your third sentence is either out of context to the rest of the paragraph, needs pronoun clarification or is a creative exercise in reading between the lines.

I would also like to point out that I didn't say that either post shouldn't have been made, only that the negative aspects (e.g., insults, rudeness) should have been addressed privately (directly).