Currently using Nord for most everything (emacs, iTerm). Comments are muted, identifiers stand out, keywords are different but don't. Before that it was zenburn which has similar "low contrast" colors.

I like dark backgrounds and those two work well without being angry fruit salad (e.g. dark background solarized feels slightly LOUD).

Update: Actually I do use the monokai (c.f. emacs version) for bat (a colourizing cat(1) drop in) which is marginally irate fruit salad.