What you consider normal is relatively new and based on the Humboldtian model of higher education, which made modern sciences , mathematics and ultimately information technology possible.

200 years and earlier ago European universities were mainly theology and law schools, where things were learned by heart.

There are probably hundreds of millions of Indians with a comparable education, but many of those hired in Bangalore come from a very traditional context, and have a tremendous pressure from their families which invested in their education to succeed.

The end of colonization didn't mean the end of a class system in most countries, often the upper class was just replaced with a local one which still sends their kids to western schools, keeps their money in western banks and doesn't care much to "modernize" the local education system (not talking particularly about India here). °

So better stop investing emotions, if you see that your approach doesn't help with a monk and you start to feel uncomfortable, then better just excuse yourself and silently stop answering.

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°) And to be fair, the absolute growth of a middle class has to compete with the birthrates of lower classes.