Let's get this straight. You find a module on CPAN that probably shouldn't be there, you flame the author publicly in a forum he doesn't hang out in, call him names, accuse him of incompetence, say that you "see no reason to be nice" to him, but then also invite him to ask for help, saying "The Perl community is a friendly and helpful one".

Do you not see that there's something terribly incongruent here?

If you want to do outreach, do outreach. If you want to flame, flame. But don't do them together. They are not an effective combination, even if you're only tacking on a bit of outreach to soften the flame. You'll make more friends with outreach.