I'm puzzled about why people continue to recommend How To Ask Questions The Smart Way.

Sure, the advice given is accurate. It would be great if everyone took it. That isn't the problem.

The problem is that the advice is given in a way which guarantees that the purported target audience will never read and take it to heart. But they will take offence.

This might make sense if your goal is to justify a division of the world into "us" vs "them", where "they" are clearly all idiots. It could well be effective at convincing people that you are a jerk to be avoided in the future. I wouldn't be entirely astounded if ESR had one or both of these goals at some level.

But it is incredibly ineffective as a technique for positive behaviour modification. It is simply awful as a tone to take in dealing with anyone who might suspect, however accurately and briefly, that they aren't in your "in group". Because the first thing that it does is offend the people that you are talking to. And after being offended, they won't hear anything else that you have to say.

For more on why people don't learn from being directly insulted and criticized, see What you refuse to see, is your worst trap.