I have to wonder why you would think that being nicer or calmer or politer would have anything at all to do with my remaining or not remaining anonymous. Honestly, why would you think such a thing?

It isn't as if posting anonymously somehow protects me from any impoliteness, hostility, or insult slinging. I know which nodes I've written, and when people react rudely to what I've written it feels just as personal to me as it does to you when people react rudely to your signed posts. Those who think of anonymity as a shield have obviously either never worn it, or have only worn it while intentionally saying things they aren't proud of.