All languages like java, php, perl, c++ and even c do, is dictate how OOP can and can't be usd.

No, they provide the syntax for doing OOP. Java, for instance, allows you to make a class definition that is nothing more than publically-accessible attributes. Such a class uses Java's object syntax, but it isn't really an object. It's a data structure. If what you need is a data structure, that's fine, but don't call it an object just because it's syntax makes it look like one.