I'd rather be in the category of (c) I'll say things as I see them, and as I'd want to be treated, and if that's seen as rude by the recipient, I'll acknowledge that and mop up the mess.

In other words, if I call someone a fool and name them explicitly, then I'll acknowledge that the person incorrectly interpretted that as me calling them a fool (which is a personal attack) and I'll acknowledge that they have some personal problem that makes them too attached to their personal actions and then I'll mop up the mess that they have now made by pointing to my disclaimer and explaining how I have done nothing wrong and am proud of my actions.

I've said what follows to you several times now. On at least two previous occasions you mentioned that you felt you should try to remember this in future...

When someone is upset by something you do, you "acknowledge it" by apologizing.

To apolgize effectively, you need to be sincere. Which means you have to make an effort to see the situation from the other person's point of view.

If you just keep telling people how you didn't make any mistake, then you aren't acknowledging anything (except that you think other people have problems) which does your case no good.

So, are you capable of seeing it from someone else's point of view? To briefly stop defending your self/actions? You'd end up looking, well, mature. It would certainly improve my assessment of your maturity.

- tye        

In reply to Re^5: A modest request of Merlyn by tye
in thread A modest request of Merlyn by delirium

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