BigJoe, I understand what you're saying. We all have one (or many) of these people in our lives. It is one of those trying times that you're going to have to find a solution to. I'll throw my $0.02 in since I've been there as well.

One of 'those guys' is my brother. I love him, but I shake my head everytime he tries to impress me with his computer knowledge. I wont go into details since I don't have that much time! However it works the same whether you deal with a family member, or a person on your work team.

The first thing you must do is this: BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND OTHERS. Note that I didn't say rude! Be honest in your opinion if someone asks you. Be honest to this person when they make a comment that upsets you. Simply state, "If I understand you correctly, then I disagree completely, because ..." No matter what though be friendly about all conversations. It's going to be difficult to get this person to listen to you. If this guy is like the ones that I've met, they will most likely block you out as soon as they realize that you are criticizing them, or not in total agreement.

The next thing: You don't have to be brotherly. Don't think that this is a requirement. I wouldn't start a flame war over it, but I'd make sure that you keep things professional. I would make sure that you take a good look at this situation and make sure that you are not causing strife.

The last thing I can think of is: Don't let this become an obsession. There are more important things and people in life. If you spend all of your energy on this guy, they you're giving this guy what he want's... attention. Just remeber the movie "The Life Of Brian" and *whistling* ...always look on the bright side of life. *whistling*

- Mission
"Heck I don't know how to do it either, but do you think that's going to stop me?!!"

In reply to Re: Dealling with That GUY by Mission
in thread Dealing with That GUY by BigJoe

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