Your email is very wierd. Since tons of people are using software obviously there is something wrong with your computer, or brain.

I think it is your computer. It has XP running on it. That is the problem. I have run Xemacs on NT and 98 (and I thought XP but I could be wrong..) also a Japanized version called meadow that I installed on 98 last week. But XP has given many products trouble so that is the most likely problem. However if you run in cygwin that should solve any problems. Also note emacs and Xemacs are different (were you trying gnu emacs?).

I know of two versions of Xemacs developed for NT. They work well though pure Xemacs is a hard act to follow. For example I installed last week as I mentioned and was so delighted I almost succeeded in convincing myself that having a DOS shell instead of bash start up when I do M-x shell was not a big problem. (Windows sux but I wanted to build a wxperl app so..). However with bash.exe and cygwin1.dll from cygwin even this would probably solve itself if it really started to worry me.

Postgresql, dunno, but I have run it in cygwin and also run mysql for windows on NT without cygwin, just fine. I think you need to cool off.

That said why not try Komodo from Activestate. It is cheap and will undoubtedly be easier for you to use.