You use "put-down" in a way that I find amusing. I never say anything about the person. I only attack the code, and the behavior of publishing bad code. If you think those are personal attacks, you'll probably be offended at most of how I criticize.

I'm very clear that you are not your code, and that I am not my code. That's what most professional programmers must acheive to increase their programming skills.

It's only abrasive when one presumes that "feeling good" is more important than "being effective with your skills". If someone is posting code, they are automatically in the latter category for me. If they're so sensitive that the former is more important, they are not ready for a public code review. {grin}