It is well worth remembering that this is a very public place, and that we are not really “talking” to one another ... we are writing. There is a difference.

So... what can easily happen, with no malicious intent but simply in careless haste, is both public humiliation and harsh written words.

Add to that ... what? How about the fear of looking stupid, or even ignorant. You've finally screwed-up your courage, “exposed yourself” so to speak, and ... whammo!

It can hurt like a punch in the gut... or in a place a few inches below your gut. It can be utterly devastating. You might know that it happened; or, you may never know. But the damage is done. So, gentlebeings, whoever you are and whatever you are saying (and mind you, I have no thing and no person particularly in mind here...) think hard before you “say” it, and choose your words and phrasing with care.