I agree that there is no replacement for formal training in programming. Whether this is school, seminars, books, man pages, perldoc, etc. these should always be the first resource of any programmer. However, the benefit to forums/IRC/news groups is that one may find insight on solving a problem that seems to have a non apperent solution. This is good for anyone that needs help.

When I started programming I came straight out of the books. However, sometimes I still don't know the answer to all the problems that I face day to day. I dislike getting flamed because I put effort into asking a community for advice on hurdles that I am facing. I appriciate all direction even if it is not a total solution.

You asked Has anyone else "had it" with all the (flame|holy)wars going on? My answer is yes. I am tired of all the flaming. All that I am looking for is direction, guidence, and support from the community of which I am proud to be a part of.

Good Hunting,
kha0z