I think your concerns are not only valid for someone starting a course leading to a bachelor's in comp science. It seems to me that everyone in a similar situation as you (trying to fit in a formal education in a busy life) will meet the same problems. I can still remember when I was a student (still living with my parents then) that going to University was a big change and all I had to take care of was studying, my parents providing everything else. How much more you have to organize your life if you have a family to take care of yourself, I can only guess?

What I mean is, you cannot do things by halves: be "half" a student and "half" a mother/wife. You will fail miserably at both. You have to be 100% in all and that will be tough, but to me you look someone who will rise to the occasion. In a few years we will tell other Monks: take for example KoolGirl, she was 100% a student and 100% a dedicated family person and 100% a PerlMonk and made a success of it all.