As an "Average Joe," you appear to appreciate honesty and forthrightness.

As an "Average Joe," I respond best when treated with courtesy. I do not respond well to potentially inflammatory rhetoric, name calling, or the appearance of the same.

As you well know, the appearance of a problem is often far more destructive than its actual presence. Consider, if you will, the effect of the appearance of various harassment forms or the appearance of a conflict of interest.

I believe that if you want people to be nice to you, you must first be nice to them--even when they're not nice back. There are times when it helps to allow certain amounts of static to go by without comment.

You've posted many thoughts regarding the pedestal issue. They don't seem to be having the desired affect. Perhaps a different approach may help? 'Twere me, I might consider ignoring the issue completely and demonstrating JAPH-ness by leading through example.

--f