If going to an event where bringing a gift is traditional and/or expected, many people will appreciate being able to see what gifts are most desired and also what gifts have already been selected by someone else. Buying a gift can be quite a challenge and the assistance in choosing one is welcomed by some people in some situations.
If you already know what you'd like to give as a gift (perhaps because you know the person(s) especially well), then don't look at the registry. I really doubt the recipient is going to be upset that you didn't buy a gift from "the list".
The point of a registry is not to claim that these are the only things that you'd appreciate as gifts, but to help people choose a gift that they know will be appreciated if they want that help.
And I doubt Oxfam or Save The Children wants a toaster or a fondue set. Unless the gift came with a receipt (unlikely), they aren't going to be able to get much (if any) money for it -- especially subtracting the time required.
The thought just makes me giggle. "Hungry children all over the world have plenty of bread, but are forced to toast it over clumsy camp fires, often burning it. But you can help. We have plenty of gasoline and generators for them, but we desperately need more electric toasters. Please send your generous donation today!". Sorry, I couldn't resist.
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