I sympathize. Life is wonderful is it not?

Sayuko should dump her boyfriend as he is the cause of her problems. He pushed her to take a post she had little inclination, interest, or time for. Then to compound matters he suggests that she spend the association's money, indirectly her money, to get council on a suit that a loudmouth hasn't even filed. What was he thinking Nanette is going to get for a judgement? for loud pipes? What did he think Nanette was going claim Sayuko did to wrong her? Conspire with upstairs neighbors to put loud water into the drain pipe?

Sayuko can simply resign for lack of time or for the task not matching her expectations. She need not worry about the association lacking a board, just follow the by-laws regarding quitting or call a meeting of members.

It's easy ... to minimize the largeness of these sorts of events ... the story's general outlines [sic] will seem very commonplace.

This is a worthy insight. Contrarily it is possible to magnify the importance of such conflicts by letting one's emotions fix on them.

Taking the stance that Nanette is an unreasonable, nasty, selfish, litigatious shrew; while seemingly accurate is both ungenerous and impractical. Ungenerous: the person can't sleep for the noise and you expect a good mood. Impractical: it is always a failing strategy to focus on the negatives of people one must deal with. That last sentence is an easily supported assertion.

When I deal with people like Nanette I try to keep this question close: What must it be like to be them?

Please don't dedicate rants and ventings, dedicate good stuff.

Be well,
rir

In reply to Re: OT: How to Spoil a nice place to live by rir
in thread OT: How to Spoil a nice place to live by Intrepid

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