And worst of all I feel like asking my questions had a negative impact on my status within these groups. This despite my willingness to accept all feedback openly, and consider/use all help I recieved.

Asking "stupid" questions will not negatively impact you status if you demonstrate that you have learned from the responses you got. The bozo-bit usually gets flipped after someone has asked the same question several times and has clearly ignored the answer given them. Often times I find that this is because they didn't understand the original answer and are not humble enough to admit it. IMO, humility is required to learn effectively.

In many cases I would get responces such as "don't do that", "That is evil", "your an idiot".

This is par for the course on the internets unfortunately, it pays to have a thick skin. It is good to take these kind of comments with a grain of salt, but to not always dismiss them entirely. It is often the case that some people who are good at programming, suck at people.

In conclusion, NEVER stop asking "stupid" questions it is the best way to learn!