Re: Re: Amsterdam PM meetings

Maybe I shouldn't enter this thread, but I think I missed something. I fail to see why you're apologizing with kudra and the other monks mentioned in your node (except for Abigail-II, who explicitly said to be pissed by being cited). The thought "Hey, let's go to see those VIPs" never hit my head. I never thought about Abigail-II as a monkey in a cage to admire, but as a competent person, surely interesting to meet face-to-face, and not through the limits of the net. Why isn't that ok?

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Re: Re: Re: Amsterdam PM meetings by liz (Monsignor) on Aug 26, 2003 at 11:14 UTC
The reason that it wasn't ok, was that I didn't ask them beforehand whether it was ok to mention them. I didn't give them the option to not be mentioned. That was my wrong judgement in this. Liz	[reply]
Re: Re: Re: Amsterdam PM meetings by Anonymous Monk on Aug 27, 2003 at 02:02 UTC
I don't want to ever meet Abigail-II, there are too many other intelligent and civil Perlmonks out there.	[reply]
Re: Re: Re: Amsterdam PM meetings by benn (Vicar) on Aug 26, 2003 at 11:41 UTC
Putting on my other hats, I can completely understand Abigail-II's point (though maybe it was a little OTT...) I've been in the position before where I've been invited to an event, stated quite clearly that I may turn up and then received a fair amount of stick when I didn't / couldn't. Although you may not be a 'VIP-spotter', many other people are, often to the point of being scary! Being 'known' in a community can carry a certain degree of responsibility and create expectations, which Abigail-II may not be prepared to take on. As a perfomer, people often expect me to be 'always on', and can be disappointed by my (relatively) normal persona IRL. Sometimes, one needs a peer group rather than an audience. Cheers, Ben.	[reply]